Dr Ashish Dhadas

Let go

In our fast paced lives, there are only few times in a week when the entire family sits together for a meal. I, being a firm believer in the idea – “The family which eats together, stays together” – have made it a norm that every Sunday lunch is a family affair for the 4 of us (my wife, 2 kids and myself). On a recently passed by Sunday however, this wasn’t to be.

The reason was a trivial one – delay on part of kids. However, due to impulsive nature, I blew my top. The result was my 8 year old daughter yelling back at me. I managed to control myself from reprimanding her since we were having food. It was with great difficulty that I controlled my urge to point out her mistake but I was simmering inside all the time (and I hated it).

We finished our lunch and I was still thinking of how to ‘let go’ the entire episode. But before I could come up with a solution, my 8 year old daughter came upto me with tears in her eyes and a paper written “बाबा, I am sorry”.

I was taken aback (and ashamed of myself) by her apology and the manner with which she ‘let go’ the entire episode. Here I was, trying to think (probably overthink) my way out of it. But the 8 year old kid just accepted that yelling at her father was wrong. She ‘let go’ her anger, her ego and moved on.

The result was a very good one. We enjoyed the rest of our Sunday with more zeal. Also, I was left a wiser man – to ‘let go’ our anger/resentment/ego, accept our mistake and moving on should be the way of life.

How I wish, we grown ups can learn from our kids. We often see toddlers crying at one moment and laughing in another. We see our kids fighting over some petty reason but making up in a short while. God created us with all the heart and beauty. Somewhere, we forget our inherent good nature and start behaving irrationally. To ‘let go’ and move on is probably the single most important quality we need to remember and reinculcate in the dynamism of our lives.

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”

– Lao Tzu

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